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SECRETS
OF BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIPS Love,
Marriage and Sex by
Michael Webb The
other day a friend was sharing with Athena and me that when her first
son was born they were so excited at the new adventure that they did
some things they later regretted.
One of those things was to begin
feeding him solid foods when he was only two months old. Practically
every authority recommends that you wait until a baby is at
least five or six months until they begin eating foods.
Their digestive
systems aren't typically mature enough to handle solids and you
greatly increase a child's chance of having allergies and other problems
if you introduce food too soon. Now
here is some advice many of you probably don't want to hear about what
you shouldn't do early on in your relationship and I'll probably get
a lot of nasty mail because of it.
But I don't write on tough issues
to be popular.
I write it to help people have blissful relationships. If
you want to have a blissful relationship, don't ruin the chances by introducing
things into your relationship until you are ready for it. I'm
constantly bewildered when people can't figure out why they keep having
failed relationships when they always muddle them with physical intimacy.
It's fairly common for couples to kiss on their first date, begin
caressing soon afterwards and start a sexual relationship within
a few weeks or months of knowing each other. While
I'm not going to tell you how long you should wait to begin kissing,
hugging and making non-sexual contact, I'm going to boldly state
that our bodies and minds are not designed for sexual relationships
until marriage.
The two go hand and hand and to try to separate
them causes a lot of emotional turmoil in our relationships. The
average American has ten sexual partners before they are married. They
either think each partner is "the one" or they think sex is so wonderful
they don't want to miss out on the opportunity.
Sex is indeed
wonderful and very special and saving it for the wedding night is
treating it as something special.
Sharing it with practically everyone
you date makes it rather ordinary. Here
are just a few of the emotional problems pre-marital sex can cause:
When you sleep with someone you aren't married to, they begin to get concerned
with how many other people you have slept with.
If you are willing to have sex with someone you aren't married to, will
you feel the same after you are married?
How about your spouse?
One has a tendency to compare their partner with their previous ones.
Regret, jealousy, guilt, remorse and angst are just a few of the
emotions that sex before marriage will bring. *
Since sexual relationships were designed for married couples, your mind
naturally begins pushing the relationship further along than where
you might be.
You might not even know the person you are sleeping with but the sexual
act will naturally make you form an emotional attachment to them.
Many couples who really shouldn't be together are married because
a pre-marital sexual relationship "bonded" them together when they
wouldn't have bonded without being physically intimate. I've
talked with quite a few people who waited to begin a sexual relationship
until they were married and *none* of them have regretted it.
I've chatted with numerous people who began a sexual relationship
before the wedding and practically all of them had regrets. While
waiting to have sex until you are married won't guarantee a blissful
relationship, it will certainly cause your mate to honor and respect
you much more than if you didn't. Love,
marriage and sex -- let's keep them in that order. Article may be found at TheRomantic.com. |
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